How many times do you take on a project or get into something and really give
it your best?Let's face it - most people don't always put their best foot forward unless they really have to. But if you forced yourself to perform
at your best you would simply get the best in return. By being at your best you would attract and meet positive, supportive people who respect you and enjoy your
company and give you the best they have to offer. By being your best you attract the
best in every situation, you attract the best outcomes and you attract the right people.Why?Because when you are at your best you exude the right energy that draws
the best people, situations and circumstances to help you achieve greater success in all areas of your life. This means that you don't get caught up in what other people think about you - instead you focus on being the best possible person you can.Let's face it - you simply won't be able to please all of the people all of the time.So don't waste time and energy trying to please everybody - focus on being your best and
you'll attract the best.You are a unique human being - there's no one else like you -no one

How You Can Be Your BestOnly you can be you - and if you respect
who you are and you believe in who you
are then others will soon start to
respect you and believe in you. This is when
you are at your best - when you truly believe
in yourself and when you believe that you
are unique and capable of achieving your goals.If you spend too much time trying to win
over people or trying to make everybody happy - you'll only attract people who
want you to win them over and you'll attract people who demand that you
keep them happy.I know everybody wants to be liked especially by those you feel are
important to you.But if you really want to win people over and if you really want to get along better with people - then you first have to appreciate yourself for who
you are.How do you do this? How do you be your best and exude the right energy to attract the right people.Focus on what you like about yourself.
Think of all the positive qualities that you have and everyday compliment yourself for the positive qualities that you have.When you do this - you focus on your best
qualities which naturally pushes you to be your best.Then begin to believe in yourself.
Focus on your past achievements - and begin to believe that you can live the life you want. Believe that you can accomplish your goals and that you can win people over. Believe that you can succeed at anything that you do - and you
will. It's a simple process of getting the mind to focus on what you are, what you can do and on your best qualities. Once you do that - your subconscious mind
will begin to attract the people, situations and events that will support what you believe - and that's when things really star to change. That's when people will see the best in you and then you'll begin being the best that you can.
Begin believing in yourself today


The next step is to be the kind of person you want to be and attract.If you want positive, good, loving, caring people and people who respect you - then you need to display those same qualities.You will attract that which you are.If you're angry, mean, cruel, unkind and disrespectful - then those are the kind of people that you will attract.People pick up on your energy - if you exude positive, loving and caring energy you'll attract people who have the same qualities.How do you begin to change your energy and begin to be the kind of person that you want to attract into your life?Start with your thoughts.Regularly have positive, confident, caring and respectful thoughts. Have the best possible thoughts about any situation and you'll attract the best possible outcome.In the beginning this won't be easy - you'll have to change the thoughts that you have.But as you change your thoughts you begin to send a new message to your subconscious mind.You then push your subconscious mind to attract the people and situations that will help you build your confidence, respect you, encourage you and be supportive.Start being the person you want to be. Start being the kind of person you want to attract into your life. Don't waste too much time and energy on people's opinions - you don't have to be what people think of you.

Don't waste time and energy worrying about what other people think about you.Focus on being who you want to be and you'll attract the people that will help you and enjoy being with you.
Here's a little exercise that you can do:

everyday make it a point to do something really, really well. Put your best effort
into at least one task everyday.Then after a week - expand to doing two
things at your best. Keep expanding every week and before you know it you'll be at your
best all the time. And in the process
you'll attract the best all the time.At the same time you should make it a point
to go the extra mile for someone everyday.I know some of you may say: "Karim, I go the extra mile for people all the time and all I get is a kick in return."

That's not what this exercise is about.The above exercise will help you attract new
people so that you're no longer treated like a doormat.Focus on doing the right things. Make sure you do your best at least one thing everyday - then expand to two things everyday the following wee and keep expanding each week.Begin to believe in yourself and you will begin to change your energy so that you attract
the right people into your life.By being your best and by going the extra
mile for people you will begin to believe in yourself. You will get your create
positive energy and get your subconscious mind working for you. Get started today

Focus on your positive qualities.
Push yourself to do your best everyday.
Be the best person that you can.
Go the extra mile.
Believe in yourself - because you can do
anything when you put your mind to it.

When evaluating job opportunities, most people put primary focus on what the job pays, often to the exclusion of other factors that will greatly impact one's success in the opportunity. Here are a few questions that can help you select the best job fit for you.

1. Does the work itself interest you? Do you think you would enjoy the work? Does it seem stimulating to you? Does it have variety and freshness or is it primarily rote? Would you be excited about telling others what you do in your job at a party?

2. How much control will you have in how the work is done? Is the job clear-cut and exacting or is there room for variation and a chance to bring your own imprint to the job? What things do you have to get approval on and which can you decide on your own?

3. Does the job present challenge, learning and growth potential? Will you have the chance to gain new skills and take on new responsibilities? Will you be able to volunteer for assignments that interest you, including those that go beyond your immediate job?

4. What is the potential impact on your personal/family life? Will you be expected to work overtime or to take home work on the weekends? Will you have to travel and, if so, how often and for how long? Is job stress high that you might likely bring home?

5. What do you think of your manager? Do you respect this person and does he seem trustworthy? Does he or she communicate well? Does the person take time to explain things clearly? Does the person seem as if he or she will be assessable when needed?

6. What is the quality of your co-workers? Do they seem friendly and professional? Are they receptive to your questions? Are they open about helping you and have they offered such assistance? Do you have things in common with them outside of work?

7. How open is communication? Does interaction in the organization seem free and fluid or guarded and refined? Are people patient with questions you ask? Does it seem as if you will be treated as a colleague? Are you asked your opinion and is it used?

8. What is the culture of the organization like? Is it loose or strict, fun or serious, informal or formal? Is there a team spirit or does everyone seem independent? How frequent and formal are meetings? Does the culture seem to match you and your values?

9. What is the long-term potential of the opportunity? What has become of those who previously had this position? What are the potential career paths this position leads to? Is the organization growing and do other opportunities seem to be opening up quickly?

10. Do you think you'll be happy in this position? Taking everything into account, from your job expectations to the people you'll be working with to the culture and its flexibility to the working hours and length of your commute; do you feel the fit is there?

By
Bob Nelson is president of Nelson Motivation Inc. in San Diego and author of 1001 Ways to Take Initiative at Work, 1001 Ways to Energize Employees, 1001 Ways to Reward Employees, and The 1001 Rewards & Recognition Fieldbook all published by Workman Publishing. For more info visit www.nelson-motivation.com.

Do employers stress you out in job interviews? Stress interviews are still common in many companies. A stress interview is where the employer lines up a bunch of interviewers (one at a time or en masse) whose mission is to intimidate you. The ostensible purpose of this interview: to find out how you handle the stress.

I don't approve of these "intimidation" interviews because they're artificial and unfair. If a company wants to stress you and observe the outcome, why not just put you on the job for four hours and watch how you perform?

If you find yourself facing several interviewers who stare at you intently, or who fire questions at a rude, rapid pace while someone watches your every move (waiting to see what your body language reveals), you need to take control of the interview.
Get an agenda.

The best way to deal with such interviews is to act preemptively. Ask for an interview agenda in advance. Who will be in the interview? What are their jobs? Who will decide whether to hire you? Who would you report to if you were hired? These are all reasonable questions. After all, you're investing your time, and you want to know whom you're going to meet.

Having an agenda will help you focus your attention on the decision maker or on the person you'd be reporting to. If it helps you stay calm and focused, take questions from everyone but deliver your answers to the person you'd report to. This tactic derives from the entertainer's method of picking one person in the audience to focus on, and it relieves the pressure and stress of standing in front of a big, impersonal group.

Control the interviewers by controlling yourself.
Next, don't try to perform. Be yourself. Pretend you're in a meeting of your department and it's your turn to talk about your work. If they try to stress you purposely, make yourself slow down and speak calmly and softly. This method helps: place one hand on top of the other. Stare at the back of the topmost hand and let it go so limp that it feels incredibly heavy on the lower one. This will help you relax and stay in control. Take a breath and focus on the question they're asking you. Forget about the people in the room. Remember that what matters is not their question, but the quality of your answer—so roll off onto a bit of tangent if you think you can do better there than on the exact question that was asked. It's a risk, but this is all a risk.

Dominate the room.
Here's one tactic I love to use in a stressful meeting. Stand up and walk around while you talk. This can make you very powerful, because everyone else is sitting down. If they tell you to sit down, tell them you like to stand while you work. (After all, stress tests are used to see whether you can maintain control under pressure.) I also like to walk up to the board and start drawing diagrams to illustrate my points. Again, this is taking control.

Know how to push back.
If the meeting starts to turn into a psychological crock, stand up, lean forward on the table on your fists and say softly but firmly, “I'm here to help you solve your problems. If you want to stress me realistically, put one or two problems or challenges you're facing on the table and I'll show you how I'd tackle them. If I can't help you on this level, you shouldn't hire me.”

There are too many psychologists earning a living by creating clever hiring tests and “analysis tools.” Some of these tests are thoughtful and valid; many are just plain stupid and unfair.
The more an interview is turned into a game, the more I believe the candidate should play hardball. Again, this is a risk. But so is letting an employer toy with you.

What's the most important thing to look for when you take a new job? Many people say the money or the quality of the job. Some focus on the “brand name" of the company because they like the status it brings with it. Others look for career advancement potential.

All those things are important when deciding to accept a job. But there's something more.
When I took the most difficult course in my college career, I decided to form a study group. My professor, Dr. Arnold Glass, advised me to form a group where I was the least knowledgeable member. He said to invite only people who were smarter than me. “That's the only way you will learn more than you already know."

It might seem obvious, but to many people, it's not. People like to be perceived as talented and expert at their work. They want to be the best. But when you join a team where you are the best, who will you learn from? So forget about being king of the hill. Start at the bottom.

There's no better advice for your career: seek jobs where you can work not with people you can impress, but with people who can teach you more than you already know. If you're an employer, hire people who know more than you do. When you're interviewing for a job, ask to meet the expert on the team who knows more about the work than the manager. If there isn't anyone, you've just found a manager who won't hire anyone smarter than he is—and you've found a dead-end department. Otherwise, you've found a potential mentor.

Don't take a job because you can do it, but because you have to learn it. Take a job where others will challenge you. Start at the bottom. Find people who are better than you.


Ask the Headhunter is brought to you by Nick Corcodilos. Nick is a nationally recognized headhunter, speaker, and authority on job hunting, hiring, and career success. He is the author of the best-selling book, "Ask The Headhunter: Reinventing the Interview to Win the Job." Nick started headhunting in 1979 in Silicon Valley and has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Reader's Digest, Fast Company, on CNN, CNBC, and MSNBC.

Whenever you decide to take initiative at work, it’s important to first weigh the impact of doing so against all the other alternatives available to you. While some initiatives can have tremendous impact on the organization’s bottom line, others may have little or no impact on the company or your co-workers. Use the following guidelines as you decide where to concentrate your own efforts:

What impact does your initiative have on the organization’s bottom line, mission, or strategic objectives? Rank your initiatives based on how strongly they contribute to increasing your organization’s revenues and profit. If you work for a nonprofit organization, consider which initiatives will help you most directly achieve your organization’s mission in the most timely and cost-effective way. Initiatives that improve working conditions and employee morale are also important because they lead to improved financial performance.

Urgency does not necessarily equal importance. Assess urgent tasks first to determine their relative importance and to see where they fit in the overall scheme of your responsibilities. Only then should you react.

Is your initiative someone else’s responsibility? Although you may be tempted to take initiative throughout your organization, in some cases it is best to defer your efforts to the person who is responsible for the particular product, service or process that you wish to address. If this is the case, bring up your ideas or concerns with that person, and then let him or her take the ball and run with it.

-GK

Source:
Bob Nelson is president of Nelson Motivation Inc. in San Diego and author of 1001 Ways to Take Initiative at Work, 1001 Ways to Energize Employees, 1001 Ways to Reward Employees, and The 1001 Rewards & Recognition Fieldbook all published by Workman Publishing. For more info visit www.nelson-motivation.com.

I often hear from people who want a simple solution to be successful.The truth is there is no simple solution to being successful but there are some simple things that you can regularly do to achieve success in all areas of your life. I'm going to outline three simple steps that you can begin applying in order to be successful - the other steps will follow over time and are all part of my Creating Power system

1. First step is to be clear and specific about your goals.

You can't be indecisive about what you want. You can't keep changing your mind all the time and then wonder why you never achieve your goals.
You have to be clear and specific.Why?When you're clear and specific about your goals you give your mind and subconscious mind a
very clear set of instructions for them to follow.If you continually change your mind your subconscious cannot create what you want
because it gets confused and just as it gets started on one goal - you change your
mind.Then your subconscious has to start all over again to achieve your new goal - simply
because you changed your mind.
If you change your mind again - guess what? Your subconscious has to start all over again. And the cycle continues as you keep changing your mind.Your subconscious cannot attract the right people, situations and circumstances if you continually change your mind about
what you want - simply because you're not giving it enough time to do what you want it to do.Your subconscious mind will only create
more and more confusion for you if you remain uncertain about what you want. People who cannot make up their minds
or are indecisive rarely if ever achieve success - because their subconscious mind does not have a clear instruction and
it is not given the right amount of time to guide you them to success - because they keep changing their minds.
Getting clear and specific about your goals is so important that it's the first thing. So get clear and specific about your goals.
If you're not sure what you want - think about what is most important to you. Then think about which goals will have the
greatest positive impact on your life. Start with those two goals - put them at the top of your list.Then stay committed to your goals.
Don't change your mind.This is how you get your mind and subconscious mind working for you.
When you're clear and specific you give your mind and subconscious mind the right instructions.
When you're committed to your goals you give your subconscious the time it needs to help you achieve your goals. Start training your mind and subconscious mind to help you achieve your goals.

2. Keep An Open Mind
The next step requires that you keep an open mind - be open to any and all possibilities.Learn as much as you can about what you
want to achieve. Take a look at others who have had success and see what they have done that you could do or that you
may be able to improve upon. Don't think that you know everything - be open to all possibilities. Don't think that there is only a certain
way to achieve your goals - be open to all possibilities and you may find a new way to achieve your goal - one that
would be very fulfilling.For example: suppose you have a business and you want to make a million dollars. Your
initial reaction might be to try and generate the money that you want from your business.

You might think that the only way to make a million dollars is through your business. But the truth is there are probably a million ways to go about making a million dollars.You could make the money through your business or you might find another way.Constantly look for different ways to make more money.You should constantly look for different, new and unique ways to achieve your goals.When you're open to all possibilities you empower your subconscious mind by letting it guide you to the choice or the option that is best for you - the one that is most fulfilling and most rewarding.If you are not open to any and all possibilities then you limit your subconscious mind - you don't allow it to help you achieve your goals in the quickest, safest and most beneficial way for you.Give your subconscious mind a chance to guide you to the situations that will help you achieve your goals by being open minded and willing to explore all possibilities. Begin empowering your subconscious mind to help you live the life you want.

3. Make Better Decisions
Force yourself to make better decisions.This means that sometimes the decision that you want to make may not be the best decision.
Instead, you may have to make a decision you didn't want to make - but it may turn out to be the best option.Take a moment to consider all options and focus on making the right decisions - don't always go with your knee jerk reaction.Always take a few moments to think about
making the right decisions.When you focus on making the right choices and the right decisions you basically instruct
your subconscious mind to guide you and help you make the right decision.If you are always afraid that you will make
the wrong decision - you'll likely make a choice that you are not happy with.We all face tough decisions everyday -
but if you focus on making the right decisions you will. Because when you focus on making the right choice - you instruct your
subconscious mind to guide you and to help you make the right choice.So look at all of the options, and focus on making the right choices - don't
rush - instead, give your subconscious mind a chance to guide you to the right choice. Begin instructing your subconscious
mind to help you make better decisions Get clear about your goals - decide what you want.Be open to any and all possibilities - you never know how you may achieve your goal or what might work for you. Make the right decisions - force yourself to make better choices - get your subconscious mind to help you make the right choices so that you live the life you want

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-GK